Its funny how things seem to come full circle. A year ago , I was on a flight from Missouri to florida when I composed a manifesto that would become our pact. A year has passed, and I’m heading back from florida to California, and I will once again be with the same group for a bcs football game. A year ago I was on a puddle jumper dealing with icing issues from rural Missouri, now I’m flying back from much warmer climates. And a few scotches in, which may affect my writing. Humor me. Let’s look back a how far we’ve come.
In many ways, P made it the farthest. He’s also been the most up and down. He was very in to the pact to start…in fact, he was the one who got me join the dating sites. He was also the one of us who got the farthest…a two month serious relationship that unfortunately didn’t work out. It bummed him out, sure, but he made the right play to end things and will be better off for it. Still, he learned a lot about what he wanted, and he put himself out there constantly. The back half of the year, he was occupied with work, family, and friends, but he has thrown a hail Mary or two down the stretch. I hope they work out.
S has been the most even keeled throughout. He wasn’t crazy about the deadline to start, but S was actually probably the first of us to fall for somebody. He kind of dated Aurora, and things looked good for a while. Circumstances out of our control caused it to not work out. Naturally, S was a bit bummed, but he was surprisingly back on his feet and asking girls out pretty quickly. Maybe he never felt the pressure I put on myself, but I was constantly impressed by his attitude. He is headed to new years with me, with one girl attending that is sort of into him, and another back in sf that he’s “talking to”, which is definitely on the right track. I see good things.
I don’t think I got as serious with any one girl as my brothers here, but I am proud of constantly putting myself out there. Maybe I was frenetic, but I dated several girls of every race, religion, and background. I got moderately involved with a few, but nothing got tremendously serious enough. I will admit, I did not anticipate how much external circumstances (marathon training, my niece staying with me, and just spending weekends with my friends) could distract me from dating, but it definitely happened - especially college football killing dating in the fall. All things considered I am happy with things. I was sort of seeing this girl a month ago, that didn’t quite work out. I was down for a bit, but my good friend Link gave me a piece of encouragement: all of his close friends are extraordinary guys, so they need extraordinary girls. Which is why it’s taking time, and that’s ok. May be bullshit, but it was what i needed to hear, and it made me feel better, at least.
I went into this cruise with an open mind, and came out with some interesting experiences, but no fiancé. Hint: when a girl tells you she’s there with her family, even if she’s your age, make sure she doesn’t mean her 9 year old kid. It will avoid some awkward 3am situations. So, barring a hail Mary, all of us will exit 2011 as single guys. It’s fine. We all put ourselves out there so much more, we just didn’t happen to meet the right ones. I’m fully confident we’ll keep doing the little things in 2012, and the right girls are just around the corner.
Cheers and Happy New Years,
The Staff at Love Pactually